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Change Your Life By Taking Care of You

The value of developing a healthy, loving relationship with yourself is that it becomes reflected in all areas of your life.  Do you or anyone you know have relationship issues, trouble setting and keeping boundaries, financial issues, or a general unhappiness in life?  Those are all affected by the relationship with yourself.

When you are able to break down and break through those negative programs you’ve developed over the course of your life, and truly cultivate a caring relationship based in self-awareness, things really start to shift in new and positive ways!

Time to heal, nurture, and cultivate that relationship.



2 Sides of the Coin

Little did I know that personal freedom comes from stepping up and taking full responsibility for life.

This lesson was a gradual process that evolved as I became aware of exactly how little power I afforded myself, and how much power I gave away.  I viewed my experiences from the perspective that “someone did something to me, or something happened to me”, which meant that the course of my life was dependent on everyone and everything but me.  Empowerment began when I started realizing that my perspective was my choice.  Indeed, everything that happened in my adult life was because every moment I was making choices, without awareness or consciousness.  Then, I began the gradual process of waking up.  You know, one of those things that some of the new age gurus tell you to do without telling you how.  It began to happen.  Why me?  Because I was open to change.  Actually, I craved it.

I was living in poverty with seemingly few prospects and a history of failed relationships.  I knew there was more, but I didn’t know how to change it.  Fortunately, when you truly want something, the universe conspires to make it happen.  I was led through a series of synchronistic events (that I could give credit to everyone who contributed, but would be remiss if I didn’t point out, even those events were because I made choices) that caused me to pay attention.

They say the only way to truly move forward is to know where you are.  I am grateful I made the choice to look back and notice similarities between people and events in my life; to see patterns in my behavior.  It was then I noticed that even decisions that were seemingly insignificant added shape and texture to my life.

Today, I choose.  I am aware of what I am saying to myself, about myself, and how I’m shaping my life down to every bite I choose to take and every minute I waste on Facebook.  I notice my language and recently have had the opportunity to take that practice deeper by being advised to notice when I say “try,” “can’t,” and “but” because those words are unconscious ways of surrendering power as well.

Choice is freedom.  When you choose to own your life, taking responsibility for how you got where you are and where you’re going, the world is yours.  ❤

the kicker

I see you walk

little girl tough guy

that bouncy swagger

kicking to the beat

of a half-broken heart

clicking the heels

of those old boots

as you carefully balance

that big chip

with all the love

you have yet to give

slightly slouched

to protect your heart

like we don’t notice it shining

Thoughts on Freedom (7/4/2011)

freedom to me means the ability to openly laugh at any given thing, to speak without reservation, to act without hesitation, and to experience whatever it is i feel without fear, shame or remorse.

i’m speaking of personal freedom, which is bought with our own blood, sweat and tears.

the courage it takes to examine your self thoroughly is equal to doing hand to hand combat on the battlefield, but instead of killing your opponent – you’re forced to give him a hug, invite him over for dinner, and love him unconditionally for the rest of your life.

this freedom is not based on any external values like money, property, or even religious ideals. it cannot be bought, sold, restrained or imprisoned.

even in the darkest times and most extreme circumstances, one can have this freedom … it’s a matter of choice … made by the consciousness of the heart that grows and resonates throughout your entire being until your brain relinquishes all control to this higher power within. all fear, shame, animosity … “drama” … gets acknowledged, categorized for what it truly is, and released from the prison which tried to contain you.

anyone can do this – anytime, anywhere. they just have to choose to drop all limiting beliefs they’ve ever known, and let their heart rage forward in love.

it’s a battle worthy of any hero … and a victory like none other.

What? You wanna talk about sex?

In our culture, we grow up with so many mores and standards of ethics based on religious dogma, we either repress our natural sexual expression or we rebel and exploit it. As a result, we have grown into a society perpetually recovering from sex crimes, where porn is so prevalent that it has influenced our views of what sex should be … men cum too soon, some women never … Few want to know about men that sleep with men (don’t ask/don’t tell), but are totally cool with girl on girl action as long as they’re both hot.

We are at the extreme of imbalance. People are frustrated, unfulfilled, and uncomfortable in their own skin.  Women can’t talk about sex or they’re labeled as sluts, and when men discuss it, they usually aren’t taken seriously because “they’re just guys” (insert eyeroll here).

In truth, every single one of us is a product of sex (as far as I know, no test tube babies have been hatched).  Not a single one of us is above it.  Some choose celibacy, some polyamory, some monogamy … and as long as it works for them – What’s the problem?  Problem is, too many hold judgement when it comes to sex.

Slutty, kinky, vanilla … all labels based on misinformed beliefs.  Even monogamy in some circles has become a bad word.  God forbid we talk openly about masturbation …

Yesterday, I read an incredibly well-written article on female ejaculation.  It was so comprehensive, I wanted to share it.  But wait … what if my facebook friends disapproved … I decided to use the ultimate spiritual way to let go …*fuck it* …. and I went ahead and posted it.  Thing is, there’s nothing to be embarrassed about.  Every single person on this earth has either had sex or thought about it.  I no longer hold myself accountable to other people’s perceptions.  I am here for the liberation and evolution of my being … and ideally, to help others do the same.  If it challenges their way of thinking – GOOD!

We need to take the shame out of sex – RIGHT NOW.  That one emotion is why so many abused never speak about it and hold onto the victimization, never fully recovering, and resulting in surrendering a little part of their being to their perpetrator permanently.

We need to openly accept, admit, and love our individual sexual selves.  As long as it is not a harm to ourselves or anyone else – Who really cares?

We are all just beings on this wonderful earth, trying to get through our days as best we can … finding love and happiness along the way.  Self-love and acceptance are crucial, and turning points in world peace.  It is so much easier to love, accept and understand each other when we can love, understand and accept our selves.

As far as the article I mentioned, it was written by a Tantric practitioner who only recently discovered this “gift” herself (visit for more info).  It’s something every woman is physically able to do … it takes a lot of intimacy, communication, and comfort (but once you get the hang of it, you won’t wanna stop) … and can actually deepen the bond between partners.  So … why not?  Forget the labels … find your own happiness … and allow others to do the same.

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